10 Signs Your Husband is a Narcissist

Marrying Prince Charming is grand—until you realize he’s more Prince “All About Me.”

If you’ve found yourself blinking in disbelief at Mr. Wonderful’s behavior and wondering if you’re sharing a bed with an actual narcissist, you’re not alone.

Grab your emotional toolkit (and maybe pour yourself a cuppa) as we dissect the telltale signs that your husband isn’t just self-absorbed—he’s flirting with full-blown narcissism.

1. He’s Always the Star of His Own Show

Every story is his story. Try sharing about your stressful day at work, and suddenly you’re listening to his saga about how he heroically conquered a copier jam—again.

Narcissists have a supernatural gift for turning any conversation into a monologue starring themselves, with only a supporting role left for you (if you’re lucky).

It’s not just conversation, either. Celebrations, family milestones, even your birthday dinner: somehow, he’s always the main event.

And if you forget to notice? Well, brace yourself for a sulk that could outlast an English winter.

2. His Empathy Tank Is Running on Fumes

Emotional support is supposed to be a two-way street. With a narcissist, it’s a cul-de-sac.

Express your feelings, and he’ll respond with a blank stare, change the subject, or—if he’s feeling generous—offer some advice that’s more about him than you.

Need comfort after a tough day? Best look elsewhere, because his capacity for genuine empathy hovers somewhere between “nonexistent” and “does this make me look good?”

If you’re consistently left feeling emotionally parched, that’s a big, flashy sign.

3. Apologies Are Rare and Always Come With a Catch

A sincere “I’m sorry” is about as easy to come by as a unicorn sighting. When he does apologize, listen closely for the hidden boomerang. It might sound like, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” which, translated, means he’s sorry you’re so sensitive.

Often, the blame gets twisted back in your direction. Suddenly, you’re apologizing for daring to be upset. If you find yourself in apology limbo while he’s polishing his halo, your house may have a narcissist at the helm.

4. Rules Are Suggestions, but Only for Him

The double standard is alive and unwell. He expects unwavering loyalty, respect, and support—while conveniently forgetting that those rules apply to both parties.

If he’s late, it’s because he’s “so busy.” If you’re late, it’s a federal offence. Perhaps he flirts outrageously at parties but throws a fit if you so much as glance at the waiter.

Narcissists specialize in playing referee and competitor at the same time—moving the goalposts when it suits them.

5. Criticism Causes a Meltdown

Nothing pierces the fragile armor of a narcissist like a hint of criticism. Even well-meaning feedback can trigger a reaction that would put a toddler’s tantrum to shame.

He might lash out, stonewall, or launch into a defensive rant about how misunderstood he is. Constructive conversation? Not on the menu. If you find yourself tiptoeing around the truth to avoid a nuclear fallout, this is a classic sign.

6. He Loves Bombing… Until He Doesn’t

Remember those early days when he was grandly romantic—dinner dates, constant compliments, surprise weekends away? Narcissists have an Olympic-level love-bombing phase. But when the novelty wears off, so does the affection.

Suddenly, grand gestures vanish and you’re left wondering what you did wrong. The trick? You didn’t do anything. He just got bored of the effort. If affection feels conditional or suspiciously tied to his moods, welcome to Narcissistville.

7. Gaslighting Is a Favorite Hobby

“Are you sure you remember it that way?” “You’re so sensitive, I was just joking.” Heard these lines a few too many times? Gaslighting is the narcissist’s specialty.

They’ll twist reality, deny your experiences, and leave you questioning your sanity—all with a charming grin.

It’s not just irritating; it chips away at your confidence until you’re second-guessing yourself at every turn. Trust your memory. If you feel like you’re losing your grip on what’s real, that’s no accident.

8. He’s Obsessed with Appearances

Narcissists are masters of the curated image—designer clothes, the flashiest gadgets, an Instagram feed that would make influencers jealous. On the surface, everything’s perfect.

Scratch that veneer and the cracks begin to show. He’ll expect you to look the part, too, even if it means missing the school run because your eyeliner wasn’t “quite right.”

If your relationship feels like an endless audition for “Couple of the Year,” that’s a narcissist’s handiwork.

9. He’s All About Control

Control isn’t just a preference; it’s a mission. From how you decorate the house to which friends you’re allowed to see, the narcissist will dig his fingers into every decision.

He’ll mask this as “helpfulness” or “just caring about you,” but if you’re feeling suffocated, there’s more going on. Your independence is seen as a threat—or worse, an inconvenience. Suddenly, your choices don’t feel like your own.

10. Your Needs Are Always at the Bottom of the List

Narcissists crave attention, admiration, and endless validation. Your needs? They’re an afterthought, if they make the list at all. Your dreams, your struggles, even your health—none of it seems to register unless it directly impacts him.

Ask for support, and it’s “bad timing.” Need a break? Apparently, he’s far more exhausted. Over time, you may start minimizing your needs just to keep the peace.

Moving Forward Without Losing Your Mind

Living with a narcissistic husband can feel like starring in a play you didn’t audition for—and the script keeps changing. But recognizing these signs is the first step toward regaining your footing.

Communication is tricky, but not impossible. Setting clear boundaries, seeking professional support, and prioritizing your own well-being aren’t just buzzwords—they’re survival tactics.

Therapy, support groups, or even a long walk with a friend can make a world of difference when you’re feeling isolated.

Above all, don’t let anyone (least of all Prince Charming) convince you that your reality isn’t real, your feelings don’t matter, or your needs are too much. You deserve connection and respect—no royal decree required.

When the drama gets overwhelming, remember: sometimes the bravest thing you can do is put yourself first.

And if you’ve seen your husband in every item on this list? Well, that’s not your imagination at work. That’s your intuition—and she’s got excellent taste.